Wednesday, February 22, 2006

It is NOT all about me......

I have finally come to the conclusion that taking care of myself is a good thing. I'm not talking about regular appointments at the spa for a massage and facial (although this would be absolutely wonderful.)

I'm talking about a few things that I do just for me. Getting up at 5:40 a.m. to work out. I would rather not get up that early, but it is the only time I can schedule exercise and not have to bring my kids along. I've discovered that having that time to myself in the morning, sharing yoga or a cardio workout with other women in my neighborhood is a good thing. I feel better about myself when I am done.

My hair appointment at the salon is another. Not the cheap by any means. But it is okay to want to look good for my husband. It is okay to want to look good for myself.

Third would have to by my book club. I go out w/out DH or kids and let someone else cook dinner. The evening is full of conversation, debate, and (depending on the restaurant) really good food. DH loves book club night. He spends some Daddy time with the kids (along with a pizza, movie and game). He knows that I will come home happy, refreshed and relaxed. Not to mention it is nice to have new ideas to discuss with him. Real adult conversation. The very best part.

Why did it take me so long to finally understand this idea? When I take care of myself it is not all about me. A woman's choices affect everyone around her. Husband, kids, extended family, friends......a woman is naturally a nurturer. The energy it takes to be a nuturer is tremendous. If science could bottle it up it would solve the world energy crisis.

Hey, here is an idea. In order to solve the world energy crisis we need to eradicate mom-guilt. Forget these t-shirts I see young hotties wearing that say "It's All About Me". I'm going to market a t-shirt that says "It's NOT All About Me". Only moms can buy them.

2 comments:

bethie said...

I love the idea, I always feel guilty...I even get to single parent to the mom guilt. SIGH. I consider parking at the far lot my exercise, and I haven't had my hair cut in over a year. But, I do have a DB (boyfriend) who will rub my back everytime I ask! (this amazes me) I don't know what kind of recharge activities I can fit in to a student/mom schedule. Any ideas?

Scarehaircare said...

Bethie - I really consider a yoga DVD as priority. Gaiam puts out one that is divided so you can either do a small 15 minute workout, 1/2 hour or the full hour. It is perfect to do before you go to bed to help you sleep better (cardio workouts will just keep you awake). I'm sure there are more ideas. Thinking, thinking.....